It’s been a little while since I last wrote anything. Not
really felt the need, or inspiration to, and think everyone is probably bored
or not fussed about my change in location. Which is totally fair, don’t blame
you!
But it’s been near enough 6 months now since I made the move
from Brighton to Manhattan, and it’s been a fairly interesting time. I’ve
written before about the stress of moving, and on reflection, it was fucking horrendous
– it took about 5 months to get my VISA sorted, with very little help given by
my work besides the literal VISA application. Everything else was on me (Often
companies use another service to hand hold you through this, many people at my
company get that service – I did not). Combining that with moving out my place
I’ve lived at for 10 years, and then finding a place to live in another country
I wasn’t even in yet, all really added up and I felt like when I moved here
whilst I enjoyed it – I really wasn’t over the stress of it all and really get
to enjoy it properly. And so I’m super
excited for the spring and summer this year to really enjoy everything and just
spend most of my time exploring this awesome city and all the fun things that
come with it.
I’ve also had a lot of visitors since I moved here, and
whilst this isn’t any kind of complaint, as it’s been really nice, and a lot of
fun, it can be full on at times. It’s just meant I’ve not had all the time to
really get out and see things with free weekends, and I don’t want to drag
people around to places that might be awful or boring, or do things they aren’t
too interested in. I’ve spoken to a few people who’ve moved country and they
all say they felt the same, and it eases up over time when people get bored of
coming over. I never really thought about it before when I’ve visited someone,
and they are often great hosts, but I’m just 1 of X number. I’ve got more
coming but it’s a little less congested now and I know the city a bit better
too, so I’m sure it’ll be all good fun!
I still miss all my friends and Mum very much, but
thankfully with technology nowadays it’s easy to stay in contact which is
great, so I don’t feel too left out of things. Which is really good for me, as
moving to a new place, it is often tricky, or takes time, to make new friends.
It’s never easy at the best of times, but somewhere totally new where I’m the 1
and they are the 100, it can be quite daunting. I am very good on my own, and
often like my own company, but equally everyone needs people to socialize with,
hang out, and chat about the world – that part I’ve not been so good at. I’m
not sad or anything by it, and good friends are always hard to come by, but
probably know a couple of people I’d call mates, and even then the social
aspect is few and far between, so I often have to just fill in my team alone or
via other means, and it’s not always a fun scenario. Again, I’m sure most
reading are saying me living here automatically makes it the best life on
earth, but I’m still a person, and moving away alone can be tough.
I guess I’ve just seen things from a new perspective, being
this person, rather than it being friends or family who’ve done similar. I don’t
regret any of it, and I am really enjoying life here, and I do go out drinking
whenever I want, but things are just a bit different and I’m still probably
settling in, even if I am adjusted – but I’m always positive, I really do love
the life I’ve made here, and I cannot wait for it to warm up so I can really
explore, and of course take ridiculous selfies on rooftop bars with the NYC
skyline in the background. I think 2019 (Well what’s left, flying by!) will be
a fun year – hope yours is too!
Cheers
