Happy belated new year.
Least that’s now out the way. If this is the first thing of
mine you’ve ever read, don’t be surprised as I’m an incredibly lazy
writer/person. I’ve spent the last two years especially lacking in motivation
of things to write about, or consider worth writing about. In fact the below
will probably not be any different, I’m just forcing myself to jot something
down.
However, I’ve decided this will be a series of my musings
which have popped into my little head, perhaps a smattering of half made points
that will collide and confuse during my literal mutterings (I don’t re-read
what I’ve typed, this is it, one take, done).
Personally the last year or so has been, like most, fairly
normal with some unique situations going on. People like to think that ‘X year
will be MY year’ – but, it won’t. Sorry. Every year is everyone’s year, and we’re
ornately designed to be somewhat selfish/self-absorbed – so this isn’t actually
the case, it’s just a year where some good and some bad might happen, like any
other. I appreciate for those on social media (Twitter, mostly looking at you
for a change), this might sound a terrible thing to say, and make some gasp –
WHAT! I AM NOT SELFISH! Being the outcry, sure, that’s cool – each to their
own, man. I’m only calling it how, well how it is. Even the most selfless
person may sometimes internally have selfish reasons for their actions.
It links to people believing themselves to be utterly
unique, one in a million, no two the same. And that’s true…to an extent.
Personality wise, you are unique. YOU reading this (all 1 of you), are unique,
no one is the same as you. However as a human being, you’re not. You’re built
mostly the same as most others. Sorry. And that’s where this wishy-washy point
swirls into the aforementioned selfish piece, it’s how we’re designed from the
principles of self-survival, we also have the principles of human nature.
Twitter has now become the perfect conduit for this, but it’s taken me years to
realize – with probably the last 12-18 months really being the ‘awaking’ to it
I needed. It allows everyone to have a voice, a unique single voice, which
comically within certain circles actually becomes a unique single MASS voice,
echoed by people who want validation and require support. I’ve been guilty of
it, for sure, but what I find the most amusing is perhaps those with the lack
of self-awareness to even realise, and still feel like they are some independent
strong willed individual, who just happens to be the same as countless others. Sometimes
I think people are scared to truly be themselves, and that’s a real shame.
This isn’t a dig as such, it’s an observation. I’ve probably
lost most of you reading this by now anyway with my confusing spiel, and that’s
fine – I write for myself mostly anyway, but even I don’t always understand
what appears on the page. I think my final thought on this particular strand of
nonsense is tribalism is a real thing, and is particularly apparent on social
media, with groups with similar interests forming a bond, which unhelpfully
(and I think to some degree, unhealthily) leading to examples of sheep
following, mutual unneeded or unwarranted ‘bigging up’, a need of validation
from one another that leads into what at times looks to be disingenuous praise,
which is really no help to anyone, and degrees of bullying. Just something
worth considering – but that’s that about, well, that.
One thing I do like though, for a change, is how people can
help one another, and it does appear genuine. It’s touching to see, albeit the
various ways that can be achieved, all of which probably do more good than we
realize. And also for those who manage to find happiness either within
themselves or with another, whatever works – we don’t all get to experience
that, or know how to, so it’s actually something that should be cherished and
revered, and I think at times we perhaps aren’t aware enough of this, and even
become a touch embarrassed when the world around us is such a shitshow. Embrace
that, never know how long it’s going to last.
For me personally, I think I’ve had an ok year. Gone through
the standard practise of some good times, some great times and some pretty
rubbish ones, which is about par for the course. I’m considering writing something
more specific to that now that I’ve jotted some words down – it will be for me,
but you may take some interest in it.
Anyway that’ll do for now.
Cheers,
Dan
Dan
